I’M BEING A BRAT BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO DISCIPLINE ME AND GIVE ME TIME OUTS AND TALK TO ME IN A STERN VOICE AND SPANK ME. WHY IS THAT NOT CLEAR?
So many new daddies don’t see these signs and then find play frustrating as they cant see why their partner appears to be acting up.
It confuses them.. his little wants to be treated little but as soon as they do, she soon acts up and misbehaves as they are playing as if she doesn’t want it, but then as soon as the Daddy stops the playtime the little becomes angry and upset.
This “little revelation” that D-R-P makes here.. is always unspoken and causes so much frustration.. a new Daddy is EXPECTED by the little to know and to move the play forward into discipline, time-out, spanking, cornertime.. because this is what a real Daddy would do, you cant just say to a real child. “OK, I can tell your not happy, its not working you want something else here..Ill just stop being your parent and we’ll do something else grown-up together instead, lets put those toys away and that nappy off and go down the pub or put netflix on.”
No, you HAVE to step up, you have to take charge, you have to show discipline, you have to be involved, you have to interact.
So Do It. Its what she wants, its what she needs.
And to explain to the littles..
New Daddies are just behaving as they are trained to by society.. their mothers and fathers.. They have had all their lives trained to “respect women”, to “not treat them like children”, to “talk through problems” and react to an issue and “move aside from it and find another solution”
When you become a daddy you need to add a switch in.. an additional filter.. that say .. Yes do all those things and carry on doing them – BUT IF the woman/man you care for is mutually engaged in wanting to be treated as a child then its OKAY.. its actually a really great thing to treat them as a child, as your responsibility, as someone who cant make their own minds, who needs to be controlled or guided or corrected.
And that is REALLY REALLY Difficult filter to install and to get your head around.
Its like unpotty training your Daddy.. takes time and practice and guidance from both parties. Daddies arent mind readers, good communication will ultimately ease this problem for you both.
I hope this helps you D-R-P, or anyone else who is reading this.
Good open communication and practice and you’ll soon get over this hurdle if your Daddy really wants it. But many potential Daddies just fall at this hurdle. Work together and you want and rewarding discipline play will be yours.
Hugs Daddy Paul.